It’s interesting to find this in the middle of my own very little so called ‘revolution’. Reblogged from Joe Seow’s facebook notes, or you can read his other thoughts here.

Thanks Joe, for the breakfast on today’s food of thought.

Somehow in life, we all have to try and achieve that BALANCE which will make our lives easier, make our outlooks positive, beckon us on in times of stress/distress and most importantly keep us sane.

This is not religious, its just philosophy from ancient Chinese teachers dating back thousands of years ago. How did they think about or how were they able to come up with such profound basics in life in those ancient times, I often wonder.

Be it crew on a production, or colleagues in a new organisation, we all need to get used to one another for humans are individuals and each individual has the right to be himself or herself.

The folks working in TVC productions are luckier cos if they don’t like or can’t get along with one or two people in the team, they only need to tolerate them for a day or a few days. The folks in feature films will probably need to have a lot more patience as destiny brought them together for the duration of the production of the film - which often runs into weeks or months. But what about those in an organisation which is new?

These folks joined the organisation not because they needed the job, I hope. They joined because of the vision which their superiors or the Chief Executive shared with them during their job interviews or during the time when they learnt about the new organisation. Destiny brought them to the job interview or destiny brought them to a discussion or discussions with the CEO or principals behind the organisation which appealed to them - which eventually led them to want to invest or spend a part of their lifetimes to join the organisation.

Life’s short, they all say. So for a person to commit a few months of their lifetimes to suss out the organisation is - supposedly - an attempt and concerted effort at finding a better future for themselves. Unless one is an absolute idiot, one would not want to to be part of an organisation which one doesn’t believe in - vision and mission-wise - or feel can further one’s career or make one’s life brighter. But idiots there are in this world; and idiots I’ve seen!

So where does this thing about BALANCE come into play?

For the matured members, I’d say that you have to find a balance between dealing with the immature and achieving you own objectives as well as the organisation’s objectives. For the immatured, I’d tell them to use the opportunity of having (the benefit) of mature members to guide them on in their lives, absorb what they share with you about their lives’ experiences and use all those lessons to the best. Your objective should not be about one night’s fame or one year’s salary or bonus. You should be thinking LONG TERM - how you can be a better perons, producer, director, businessperson etc in 1, 2, 3, 5 or 10 years’ time. Remember that the ability to learn and the opportunity of having learned peers share their experiences is a privilege rather than a right.

“Rome wasn’t built overnight”, runs the old adage. Every new machinery, be it your car or the machines in your factory, need a running-in period so that all elements can run smoothly. The same for every organisation.

Yet I find that there are people who will join an organisation only to give up after a matter of a few weeks or months. Here - in giving up - I’m not talking about them resigning from the organisation for if they had resigned, they would have given others a chance and given themselves another chance to find another tunnel and another light at the end of the tunnel - a sort of clean cut “giving up”. But they hang on, just so that they can have a pay check at the end of the month lto pay mortgages or their wives’ credit card bills.

They have lost all motivation to help build the organisation, or attempt to work with others within the organisation. They literally waste a few months or years of their short life doing things they are not happy doing, doing things which are only half of what they’re capable of doing which in turn will only earn them less than what they could have earned if they had done their jobs with total commitment and conviction.

Most of the time they feel that a pay check of “x” dollars is fine and they feel like they’re putting in only 70 percent of the effort for a 100 percent pay check. But what they don’t realise is that their superiors or directors are not idiots and are not there to tolerate malingering. They don’t know what earnings they have lost because they did not put in their best. Its like what a friend once told me: If someone hasn’t eaten the best Matzusaka beef or the best birds’ nest they won’t know the difference between buffalo meat or jelly.

To them buffalo meat is the best meat they have eaten, and they will believe that its prime Matzusaka beef from Kobe. For want of another analogy, if we haven’t seen how fast a solid state hard disk loads, we are all happy with the 5400/7200 rpm hard disks found in most desktops and laptops these days. But just because we haven’t experienced that ultimate doesn’t mean that we can resign ourselves to the fact that we are not good enough to experience those finer attributes that life has to offer. And just because others are able to enjoy those attributes, that doesn’t give us an excuse to take the shortest route to enjoying those attributes that the Joe Bloke’s or the Jones’ of this world enjoy. For you can beat Joe Blokes or the Jones’ today but there will be Joe Blokes 2 and Jones 2 tomorrow.

“Know who we are, what we are and what we can achieve”, my late grandma used to tell us. For every person who praises you (for you abilities, noble character etc) there will be another will be criticise you for what you are. For every person who likes or admires you, there will be another who will hate or despise you. Wealth, fame or fortune are like drifting clouds. They change shapes and forms so fast and so often, that nothing is edged in stone.

Taken from my husband’s facebook notes:

This past week has been a very strange week indeed

I don’t know. Maybe it is just me, but many (dark) things happen this past week, too many for them to be just a simple coincidences.

For starter, there have been too many deaths.

Reza’s mother, bi icah’s nephew, Aas’s mother, riza’s daughter, Dejan, Tante Heni’s husband, a friend’s aunt.
And then there’s that Jackson guy and someone called Farrah F.

Hey, people died all the time, you might say. Otherwise this whole planet would be inhabited by trillions in just a few short centuries. BUT, this feels different. Too many natural deaths in just a short time.
Some of them were old, some were sick. But why now?

And then there’s the fact that almost everybody I know were sick.
I only need to open facebook to see pages after pages of people with status like ‘not feeling well’, ‘damn cold!’, ‘I need to see a doctor’
Not to mentioned the fact that I also spend three days in bed last week with a violent (and out of nowhere-y) kind of cold.

There’s no big catastrophe going on in the world right now. No tsunami like Aceh, nor earthquake like last year’s.
But everything still feels wrong.

When Darth Vader destroyed the planet Alderaan, Obi wan, flying in the millennium falcon light years away feels it as a physical pain, the moment when millions of life were suddenly silenced.

That’s how I feel right now.

Dejan di-interview oleh sebuah stasiun TV barengan sama Aldo. Ia pergi tak lama setelah interview tersebut usai.

Article ini saya ambil dari sini.

Dejan Glusevic, atau yang biasa disapa dengan Dejan, harus pasrah masuk UGD RS Muhamadiah tepat di hari ulang tahunnya yang ke 13.


Dejan Sang Manajer

Dejan yg lahir di Bandung pada tgl 26 juni 1996 adalah salah satu pencetus gerakan The Neverland Playgrounds, yaitu gerakan taman bermain gratis milik yayasan Adikaka yang dibangun tepat bersebelahan dengan gang masuk rumahnya. Terkenal dengan kemampuan jajannya, namanya di duga adalah singkatan dari “Gede Jajan”. Dejan adalah anak yang punya kemampuan komunikasi yang luar biasa, keberaniannya menyapa orang dan berkenalan dengan siapa saja, menjadikan Dejan diangkat sebagai manajer Neverlands oleh anak2 sebayanya. Dejan adalah anak yang sangat aktif, dan sangat komunikatif kepada semua orang, baik kepada yang tua maupun yang muda. Semua orang sepanjang jalan Baranang siang Bandung mengenal sosok Dejan yang selalu ceria dan senang menyapa. Dejan, alumni SDN Patrakomala, yang baru minggu ini naik ke kelas 2 di SMP Pasundan 6, adalah anak bungsu dari pasangan Dadang Kardiana mantan Satpam yang kini berpenghasilan dari mendistribusikan minyak tanah.
Kemampuan dalam melakukan pendekatan ke orang, sangat jelas terlihat, sewaktu pada acara pertandingan skate “Volcom, wild in the parks” di Depok tahun 2007, ia bertanya pada saya:

” Om’ pei, kalau menyapa apa kabar dalam bahasa inggris gimana Om?”
“How are you sir?” kata ku, dan dejan langsung bergegas pergi.

Ia duduk, di sebuah bangku sambil pelan2 bergeser mendekati seklompok orang prancis yang sedang ngobrol. Tiba2 ia berbalik badan dan menyapa mereka: “How are you ? Sir? “.
Entah pakai bahasa apa, namun percakapan Dejan terus berlanjut hingga Dejan kembali berlari pada ku dan bilang:

“Cepet om pei, minta stiker dan kartu nama… katanya mereka mau mampir bandung minggu depan. :) ”

dan penuh kekaguman aku hanya menatap seorang calon PR (public Relation/ Humas) yang luar biasa yang pasti akan menjadi orang besar dijamannya kelak kata ku.
Namun Alloh memiliki rencana yang lain.

Dejan adalah salah satu pencetus Neverland Playground

“Neverland Playground tidak akan pernah berdiri bila bukan karena Dejan. Begitupun dengan komunitas Skatenya!” Itulah pernyataan yang aku lontarkan disaat anak-anak Neverland sempat menanyakan kenapa Dejan diangkat jadi anak Neverland Skater padahal belum bisa meluncur dengan mulus dari tempat skateboard yang tingginya 1,5m. Memang hal tersebut adalah salah satu syarat utk dapet kaos “Neverland skateboarder”.

“Keberanian Dejan beda!” kata ku.

“Dia mungkin lebih lama dalam mempelajari skill skateboard. Tetapi kemampuannya dalam menarik simpati orang, kepeduliannya dan perhatiannya terhadap teman itu lebih sulit diperoleh dan lebih berharga daripada trik skateboard mana pun.”
“Adakah yang bisa nyangkal kebranian Dejan dalam berkenalan dengan orang?” dan semua anak Neverland diam sambil geleng kepala.

Dejan, adalah anak yang pertama kali memberikan skateboardnya utk dimainkan oleh anak-anak, jauh sebelum siapapun bahkan bisa berdiri di atas sebuah papan skate. Ia yang menemani Nabil dan banyak anak2 kecil di baranang siang dalam bermain. Dia adalah inspirasi pencetus gagasa didirikannya sebuah taman bermain bagi anak-anak kecil. Karena sebuah kampanye “Never Grow Up” (kampanye bermain dengan anak) tidak pernah lengkap bila tidak difasilitasi dengan area bermain bebas. Dejan adalah anak kecil yang bersikap jauh lebih dewasa dalam menghadapi dan memperhatikan anak-anak di daerah Baranang Siang daripada orang dewasa manapun di daerah ini. Dan hingga kini keceriaan Dejan dalam bermain tetap menggema di telinga. ……….Menggema dalam hati.

Kepergian Dejan

Dejan masuk Rumah sakit, tepat 3 hari setelah penayangan acara “Cita-cita ku” di Trans 7. Ia berperan sebagai tokoh utama yang mencoba memperbaiki Robot Gundam yang secara tidak sengaja dirusak oleh pemain2 Skateboard (Endo, Ujang dan Robi) dan membuat Diorama di Zero Toys bersama Om Aldo dan Ridwan. Dejan hingga kini belum sempat nonton acaranya sendiri yang ditayangkan pada hari rabu.
“Endo, dejan nonton ngak?” kata ku pada salah satu anak Neverland,” Enggak om Pei, Dejan lagi Sakit.”

Pada jumat pagi, saya mendapat kabar bahwa Dejan terkujur kaku sambil kejang-kejang di kamarnya. Bergegas kami lari ke rumahnya. Dejan setengah sadar, jari2 tanganya kaku bagaikan mencengkram batu yang tembus pandang di depan dadanya. Ia melihatku, dan ibunya bertanya,
“Dejan lihat! siapa itu? Dejan? Dejan inget ngak?”
“O..om pe..i” Dejan menjawab dengan nada lemah.

Keluarganya dengan sigap menyiapkan SKTM (surat keterangan tidak mampu) untuk di rujuk ke RS Muhamadiah. Sebelumnya dejan telah berobat ke Dokter Umat sehat, dan cek darah ke lab, namun menurut diagnosa, hasil tes darahnya baik. Berdasarkan tes lab tersebut Dejan di diagnosa sakit panas biasa oleh dokter Umat Sehat.
Di IGD Rumah Sakit Muhamadiah, dejan di diagnosa Tetanus, akibat terjadi kejang2 disaat terkena sinar cahaya dan hiruk pikuk orang. Menurut dokter setempat Dejan harus masuk ruang isolasi. Disayangkan ruang isolasi RS Muhamadiah sedang penuh.
Aku mengusulkan masuk RS. Santosa, karena memiliki pengalaman yang cukup baik dengan Rumah sakit tersebut. Namun, memang pembiayaan SKTM hanya ditanggung hingga 2/3 dari keseluruhan biaya pengobatan. Menurut Dokter Muhamadiah meskipun sebagian di tanggung oleh pemerintah, 1/3 dari biaya rumah sakit swasta tersebut akan tetap terasa cukup tinggi melihat kondisi ekonomi keluarga Dejan. Hal tersebut tetap dapat menjadi cukup berat karena pengobatan bisa mencapai di atas 20jt an, berhubung fasilitas yang dibutuhkan antara lain ruangan isolasi dll. Fasilitas khusus tersebut tidak ada pada semua rumah sakit lain. Dokter menyarankan lebih baik ke RSHS, meskipun disana pasti penuh, namun IGD (instalasi unit gawat darurat) RSHS, dan tenaga dokternya cukup banyak hingga bisa menangani keadaan Dejan, meskipun di IGD.
Dejan diputuskan untuk pindah ke RSHS menggunakan Ambulance. Di IGD RSHS, Dejan di diagnosa bukan menderita tetanus melainkan DB. Setelah beberapa lama berada di installasi Gawat Darurat, Dejan dipindahkan ke ruangan perawatan Anak A2 ruang 2.
Hari minggu tgl 28 juni sore, disaat anak2 Neverland diberikan kesempatan berkunjung, saya bertemu dengan Dokter dan ia menyatakan bahwa Dejan tidak menderita DB. Untuk dilakukan diagnosa Dejan harus diambil cairan dari otak melalui tulang belakang. Namun sebelum tes tersebut dapat dilakukan Dejan memasuki masa kritis pada hari senin subuh dan menghembuskan nafas terakhirnya jam 7 pagi 29 juni 2009.

“Insya Allah Dejan sendiri kini hanya tinggal bersenang-senang bersama Allah…” adalah kutipan SMS belasungkawa dari seorang sahabat yang ikut berduka…

“Aku yakin bahwa Dejan menjadi cahaya keceriaan yang semakin menerangkan surga… tempat ia kini bermain bersama Rasul dan para orang orang ber Iman.”


In Memoriam
Dejan Glusevic
BANDUNG 26 JUNI 1996-29 Juni 2009 atas nama semua anak2 Neverland
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